I started writing this post as a revision of my 2012 Goals post, & it kind of spun out into this. A manifesto, of sorts. I was not really expecting this at all.
Be who you are.
It’s as simple as that.
Because you’re becoming who you are. Enjoy the process of doing the work.
Act like you want to feel. Most of the time. But when you run across something really difficult, it’s okay to say, “I’m having a hard time with this”, & really feel those feelings.
Do those things which you know feed your soul. Craft it out. Meditate. Sing in the shower. Photograph everything. Listen to what guides you. Write out your affirmations. More EFT, always. Remember how much magic you hold. Take your own advice sometimes. Dig deeper & investigate the corners, the shadows of your life. Open up those places to the people who want to come in; but don’t let anyone be cavalier with your heart. Demand better.
Worship. Serve. Hug it out. Embrace the world.
Girl, you know that glamour, style & sex appeal are the watchwords for your life. Therefore, you need to make an effort every day to connect with the spirit of what those words mean.
Your body is an extraordinary machine; treat it as such. Love it as much as possible. Your body does so much for you & it is such a miracle. It deserves to be pampered, powdered, & perfumed. It deserves to have the fuel it needs to run in absolutely top condition. Cleanse it twice a day. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. Once a week, set aside your you time — remember how much you used to enjoy that? Mud masks & manicures & maybe a martini or two. & don’t forget to take your vitamins.
Get out there & ride your bike. Do some yoga.
Your brain is the sexiest thing about you. Read as much as possible to fuel it up. Think hard as much as possible, while you’re at it. Expand your reasoning & judgement skills.
Stop being so afraid to be by yourself, with no distractions, & your thoughts.
Provide something to those whose lives you touch. Be polite & fair.
Leave yourself open to love, but don’t actively hunt it. The One will come when you’re not looking. This has always been your way. When you do go on dates, only go on fun ones. You also shouldn’t drink or kiss on the first date. Keep yourself free & clear. Remember that the path you have chosen to a lifelong relationship is one not often taken. It may look strange & somehow wrong to others on the outside, but those on the outside don’t know your inside. No one here is quite like you.
Stay open to all your possibilities & really listen to your intuition. It’s right & you will hear what you need.
Let things go. You hold grudges like nobody’s business. Fill those spaces with love instead. There is only love.
Your space is your castle; be proud of it. Be selective with who you invite into it. Entertain your dear friends. Build forts with them & make them tea. Make it look exactly how you want it to, & fill it with objects & art that make you happy. Bring plants into your life & care for them like the fragile children they are. Define your morning ritual & build up to a point where you don’t think about it anymore.
Once a month, give yourself the gift of a Bed Day. Candles, tea, journalling, TV… & then leave TV alone. You don’t need it. Take more time to sit & look out the window. Take a moment to appreciate where you are & how you got here.
Write it all out. Write fiction. Write poetry. You used to love this so. Reconnect. It doesn’t have to be good. You don’t have to show it to anyone at all.
Don’t forget to feel like you’ve accomplished things. Write down your lists of “it’s done” things. Keep them somewhere safe, so you have a record of your wins.
Plan, plan, plan some more. Take some time on Sunday evenings that’s just for you to plan your week ahead. Then take action already.
Respect your tech. Use it to simplify & streamline your life.
Spend your money wisely. Shop small; shop local; shop smart. When you get an urge to buy something, wait 48 hours. It will probably go away. Don’t spend your money on just any old junk. Plan for your future. It’s not going to plan itself, & you can’t count on the fact that maybe someone else will be there for it. Be frugal but give generously. Be selective & source the best things for yourself. One amazing thing is better than ten passable things. Love what you own. Make do & mend. Especially mend.
Do what you do with passion & presence.
As always, as ever, say yes.