In the ongoing Five Ways To Love Yourself series, here’s five more, lovely!

Sign up for Notes From the Universe at tut.com. Every day you’ll get a little reminder that something other than you is on your side, delivered right to your inbox. It seems like whenever I am feeling particularly down in the dumps, or like less than what I am, my Note From the Universe is the swift kick I usually need to get me right back out of it.

Now that the weather is fine, take a newspaper & a nice pastry to a park bench. Enjoy your lovely treat, inform yourself of goings-on locally, nationally & internationally, & people-watch. Be open to possibilities by putting yourself out there.

Plan your look for summer. Give yourself a theme or some watchwords that you want to follow. I have written extensively about this season’s trends here & here, so give those a read & give yourself a jumping-off point.

Have a one-person dance party. In your pajamas, in your underwear, in your fanciest clothes—it doesn’t really matter. Let the music flow through you where it doesn’t matter how you look. Let it open you right up.

Make a list of fabulous hotels you’d like to visit. It doesn’t matter if you never go, it’s all about the daydream, baby!

This week, pick one thing to do just for yourself. If none of these grab you, that’s fine—consider it a jumping off point into amazing self-love!

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Back by popular demand—five ways to love yourself!

Give new people you meet a chance. Trust them until they aren’t trustworthy, not the other way around. They don’t have anything to prove to you, & you could be blocking yourself from a wonderful opportunity. (It definitely helps to have a functioning, healthy bullshit meter. I wonder if there’s an app for that?)

Let people go. As some relationships fade, others grow. Make room in your heart for the now & don’t beat yourself up if your old friends don’t “fit” anymore.

Compete only with previous versions of yourself. I’m Jes 4.0. This is the best version so far. But I know there’s going to be an upgrade soon. It is going to be awesome.

Support your loved ones in their victories. Did your best friends just buy their first home? Send them fresh flowers a week after they move in. Did your cousin just get her master’s degree? Send her a card. Niece finally potty trained? Time for a special present from her favourite aunt/uncle!

Respect your vehicle. By your vehicle I mean, of course, your body. Treat it nicely. Give it the fuel it needs to make it function the best. Rub lotions into it. Spend time with it.

Challenge yourself to take one of these on today & see if you don’t love yourself just a little bit more because of it.

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Sometimes we just need to show ourselves a little love. There’s nothing wrong with it. When we love ourselves well, we are better friends, better partners. Give yourself a little brain, heart, & soul hug today!

1. Clean out your closet.

Sometimes our closets get out of control. I know this is a fact. Even as an image consultant, my closet gets crazy! Give yourself the gift of time to go through your things, & pull out all the items that don’t fit, don’t flatter, need repair, or that you never wear. Get them right out of your house. Donate them to a charity, or take the opportunity to host a clothing swap with your favourite lady friends. You can check out this great how-to, or if you need an unbiased person to help you, you could always hire me.

2. Let go of perfect.

The things that go wrong, the things that are spontaneous, the things that are flawed, those are the things that often make the best memories. Allow yourself to experience the imperfect without judging yourself. You didn’t do anything wrong—things just turned out differently than you hoped. Grab your camera, document it all, & enjoy the moment.

3. Call your best friend. 

That’s right—on the phone. Have a nice long chat. When was the last time you actually picked up the phone instead of texting or e-mailing? I used to work with my best friend, & saw her every day, & now that I don’t we try to talk on the phone at least a few times a week. It helps keep us connected. Connections are kept strong by showing you care enough to make the effort.

4. Write down what your perfect day might look like.

Take some time with it. Then try breaking it down. Are there things in there that you can incorporate into your life right now? Make yourself a little list & commit to doing one thing to make your day perfect every day. Maybe that means having a healthy breakfast, or being crafty, or spending quality time with your lover. There is no better time than right now to start.

5. Go to the library.

Get yourself a big stack of delicious books. Or some CDs. Or some movies. Treat yourself to a great (& free!) resource of all kinds of materials to make your brain happy.

Read more tips here.

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