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April 28, 2013 – 1:26 pm
April 23, 2013 – 9:02 am
I absolutely love the old-school romanticism of carrying a flask. Flasks filled with spirits rose to popularity during the Victorian era, when they would be carried to keep one warm on the hunt.
But I’m not much of a hunter. Or much of an out-of-doors person at all. So for me, it’s like I have a little secret in my purse! I went to a gala this past weekend, & maybe, just maybe, I might have had a purse-secret!
Remember, however, that a flask isn’t about getting hammered. Most only hold between three & five ounces anyway, which should be just enough to keep you warm.
There’s a fine, fine line between being the saucy minx who carries a flask, & just being on the sauce. So I do feel like there are some rules & regulations to follow when you’re flasking it.
Sharing is caring. If you pull your flask out in front of people, you have to share. Remember, though, that sharing a flask is a sacred act of friendship, so don’t pull it out in front of someone you don’t want to have that bond with. But sharers beware! If you’re at a place where a flask would be a good idea, & you don’t have one, you are at the mercy of those with flasks. (S)he who has the flask is In Charge. As the owner of the flask, you have some rights though–the first & last nips always belong to you. However if you choose to offer the first pull to your fella or lady, that’s a nice touch which should be appreciated.
Use your flask only for good. Put your foot in it? Offer a pull. The lubrication of a little whiskey or bourbon can smooth over all but the most brutal of faux pas. Speaking of using it only for good, remember that a flask is considered an open container if you’re going to be in a car! Don’t break those laws.
Take good care of your flask. Don’t leave liquids in it more than three days, since you don’t want it to rust. Clean it out by running hot water in it, & letting it dry out overnight with the cap off. Every few uses of your flask, or every time you use a different alcohol in it, add a few drops of lemon juice to your hot water rinse to really clean it. No matter what you do, never use soap in your flask! It’s impossible to rinse away, & you’ll ruin it for future use.
Personalize it. Engraving your flask is only a few extra bucks & well worth it as a conversation piece. Don’t overlook giving a personalized flask as a gift—it doesn’t have to just be a monogram, why not engrave an inside joke on it for your best friend? Do make sure you don’t give a flask empty; fill it with the recipient’s favourite libation.
Discretion is key. To that end, don’t use overly smelly booze in your flask, because everyone will know what you’re up to. Vodka, bourbon, & whiskey are all good choices, & schnapps are acceptable if you’re going to be out in the cold. Don’t get too hung up on people “catching” you with your flask, but be nonchalant & rogueish about the whole affair. There’s a cool that comes with flasking which should never be taken lightly.
Bring it to the right places. If you’re going somewhere there’s going to be a bar, I would recommend not bringing your flask there. It just looks cheap, & makes you look like a rummy. Remember also that Saturday night is very different from Monday morning, & you’re not Don Draper. Maybe don’t bring that bad boy to work.
Good places to flask:
- Outdoor sporting events
- The movies
- Whilst doing anything outdoorsy: mountain biking, hiking, skiing, snowshoeing
- On picnics
- At the beach
- Around a campfire
- On train rides
Take a moment. After a nip from your flask, take a breath. Appreciate where you are. Really notice who you’re with. A flask is not about showing off; using a flask is about softening the edges of a hard world with stolen moments shared with those you care about the most.
How about you? Do you carry a flask? What do you put in it? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
April 10, 2013 – 11:41 am
I’ve been thinking lately about how I get motivated.
A lot of the time, people try to push me by telling me what I should do. This actually has the opposite effect on me—when someone tells me what I should do or when I should do it, I automatically dig my heels in & say to myself, “No siree, I will absolutely not do that!” Maybe it’s the fact that I’ve never really been a rebel (PeeWee Herman is more of a rebel than I am, “I’m a loner, Dottie, a rebel”), & I’ve never really been one to push the boundaries of the socially acceptable (pink hair being the exception). I like to follow the rules. So much so that I like to make up my own rules to follow.
So that leaves me thinking about what motivates me to get going, to make changes, & to get things Done.
It’s quite simple, really.
Fear gets me going. Not knowing how I’m going to pay my rent, not knowing if I’m going to be able to fit into my dress for the next event I have to go to, not knowing who’s going to help me move… they all kick my ass & cause me to Get. It. Done.
However, I know that fear isn’t healthy for me. Fear is the opposite of love, & one of my rules is that there is only love. So how can I get the motivation from fear that I need without feeling the actual fear?
I’m trying to figure it out. Here’s what I’ve come up with so far.
Charting my progress. There is something deeply satisfying about making charts & graphs to me. I blame it on working at Statistics Canada for six years. My weight chart fascinates me. I’ve been keeping it for six years now, & it’s really interesting to compare it to my journal! The effects of my emotions on my weight are clear. Any kind of chart works for me though. Even something as simple as not breaking the chain of tick marks on a calendar has a pretty profound effect on getting me to do things. Famously known as the Jerry Seinfeld method, this really works for me! I just started using the Lift app to track (mostly because mid-move I misplaced my calendar), & it seems to work pretty well so far!
Holding back. I find that when I have a new goal or idea that I want to do, really want to do, I go whole-hog right away & get burnt out super-fast. I’m trying to teach myself to hold that enthusiasm in a little bit. I need to constantly remind me that big goals are marathons, not sprints.
Vision boards. Okay, I know, so cheesy, right? So The Secret. However, Pinterest isn’t! I have a board on there called Dream Life, & every time I am starting to feel a little down about my goals & where I am going with my life, I find it helps to check those images out. They really help me spin up my positivity.
So that’s what does it for me! What about you, sweet lovely? How do you stay on track with your goals? Do you find people checking in & pushing you helps, or do you need to figure it out on your own? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
December 12, 2012 – 7:13 pm
I’m really, really not.
But here goes.
So, in the past, I’ve have many lovers tell me I have “innate sexuality”. That is the exact phrase that they have used. I thought that they were, well… crazy. Kind of nuts. I mean, I’m the chubby girl with bad teeth & weird hair most of the time. I didn’t really get it.
This fall, I decided to take some acting classes at Ottawa Theatre School. I had an incredible time taking them & can’t wait to do more. It also turned out I was… kind of good. I definitely surprised myself. (See, I told you it was going to sound like I’m bragging. I have a point, I promise.)
I was talking to Nadine about my acting classes recently, & asked her if she had anything coming up as far as scripts for Fringe go. She didn’t, but said, “I would absolutely cast you—you have great presence.”
This story has a third piece to make sense. I promise we’re getting there, so don’t go all “tl;dr” on me just yet.
I’ve been doing some acting workshops at Ottawa Little Theatre. The last scene I was in involved ex-lovers having a bit of a spat. The director was really focusing on having us connect with each other on stage, & the fellow I was with just… wasn’t getting it. So the director (a man of the handsome variety), came into the scene with me to demonstrate how he wanted it to look.
This is what the dialogue was supposed to be:
HIM: Are you mad at me?
ME: (actually angry) Why would I be mad at you?
Here is what happened:
HIM: (gripping me by the shoulders, looking deep into my eyes, speaking seductively) Are you mad at me?
ME: (knees buckling, full swoon) N..n..no…
Was I flustered? You bet. But later on I got to thinking about why it affected me so.
The director was 100% present in the scene. So was I.
When it comes to my love relationships, I also tend to be 100% present when I’m with that special someone.
Hence the “innate sexuality”. It’s not a thing on its own. It’s just part of being present.
So, here’s the challenge, I guess. See how present you are the next time you’re with someone you love. Make loads of eye contact. Really listen. Listen more than you talk. React to them—don’t just wait for your turn to speak. Your turn will come.
Let me know what happens! Or, you know, keep it between the two of you.
December 7, 2012 – 8:17 am
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