Guys, it’s confession time.
I love self-help books.
It started out innocently enough: I started buying old self-help books from thrift stores when I was in my early twenties. They were funny. They were hokey. This was the late nineties, after all. We didn’t care about personal development. It was all, lookit this crazy artifact from when people wanted to work on their minds! Personal favourite titles included Sex & the Single Girl by Helen Gurley Brown, Sexual Astrology by an author who only went by “Martine” (which I now know is the nom de plume of Joanna Woolfolk), & of course the often-mocked I’m Okay, You’re Okay, by Thomas A. Harris.
I liked to keep these books on my shelves for the kitsch factor. So that when my friends came over, we could laugh at the titles, at the cheesy covers, & say to each other, “Hahaha, aren’t we so advanced, aren’t we so evolved, we don’t need self-help, because we’re awesome just as we are!”
But I had a secret. Of course I did.
I was devouring these books. I was trying to be better. I was trying to get better. I knew I had issues, sure. But I didn’t want to be defined by them anymore. So many people I knew were defining themselves by their problems: they were on severe medication & it was all they talked about, they were in shitty relationships & it was all they talked about, they were unhappy with their work & it was all they talked about. I felt that there had to be somehow more. Thus my deep love of self-help books was born.
A couple of years ago, once I had graduated to reading personal development blogs, I started to notice that a lot of people were talking about Danielle LaPorte’s The Fire Starter Sessions. I recently had an Amazon gift card burning a hole in my pocket, so I decided to pick up the Kindle edition.
This book is a total game-changer.
I don’t know how you feel about personal development books. You might hate them. If you do, get this book. If you don’t, get this book. No matter what you think about yourself, if you think you’re already amazing, if you absolutely hate yourself, get this book. It is written in such an accessible, conversational way. It’s not like traditional self-help at all!
Because of this book, I have been examining my real passions & skills & feelings. I have realized that if I only did what was easy in my life, I would have more time to do what was easy (that was a big day). I have figured out the core feelings I want to feel every day. I have realized what my true calling in life is.
So here it is. I’m dropping the bomb.
As much as I love helping people with fashion & style, I never felt more alive or more energized than I did when people would tell me that what I really helped them with is how I made them feel about themselves.
The best part is, I’m really good at helping people feel happy.
I am still going to be offering my style services. But they are going to be taking a backseat for a little while. The important thing that I’m working on right now is helping people Be More Awesome. I am now offering life coaching!
I haven’t figured out what that looks like yet, & I am still working on putting together some materials for it, but I am so excited & on fire about this, you guys! If you might be interested in some coaching, please e-mail me or leave a comment below.