Back in January, I wrote about five ways to love yourself right now. Because of the great response I got from that column, I thought I’d try making it a semi-regular feature.
Without further ado: five more ways to love yourself right now.
Treat yourself with all the respect and consideration you would show a new lover. You know that I think that the first person you love should be yourself. Well, imagine how nice you are at the beginning of a new relationship. You treat the other person gently, you do what they want to do, you share your feelings. Shouldn’t you be that gentle with yourself? Shouldn’t you love yourself just as much, if not more, than a relative stranger? Show yourself that love. Take yourself on a date. Send yourself an “I’m thinking of you” card. You could even go so far as seducing yourself.
Choose to be happy. Smile even if you’re not feeling it. Be happy now—don’t put it off for the you who you are becoming. Why should you think, “I’d be happy if…” or, “I’ll be happy when…” This thinking is seductive, yes, but the problem is that those goalposts keep moving. Why not write a list of things you’re happy about right now? I do this every Thursday with my A Little Bit of Heaven posts. Yes, it’s important to have goals, but it’s equally important to enjoy today.
Give your dreams a chance to bloom. You should be your loudest cheerleader, not your snippiest critic. Enough people will tell you that your dream isn’t practical, that your fantasy life should remain a fantasy. How can you prove those suckers wrong if you listen to them? Listen to your heart, baby. Do what makes it sing. Believe in yourself. Write yourself a cheer, get yourself some pom-pons, do a dance in celebration of your wonderful, fantastic, creative, inventive self. Remember: critics will tear down that which they’re afraid of. That’s a statement on them, not you.
Believe that you are ready for more than what you have. It’s one thing to want something. It’s quite another to believe that you are ready for it. Everything comes when you are ready. You know how sometimes people say, “It was when I stopped looking for love that it found me”? There’s a reason. Because they threw themselves into their own lives, into being open to new opportunities, they signalled to the world, like a big bat signal, that they were ready for more. Believe you are ready for more & it will come.
Love people for the right reasons. Love people because they are loveable in their own right, not because they complete some part of you which you feel is missing. No one will ever complete you, beautiful. Jerry McGuire got it all wrong. You complete you. You deserve to be loved for who you are, not by what you complete in someone else. Don’t you want that consideration? That means you have to give it. Love people for their loveable qualities.
Okay, darling. I challenge you. Implement one of these things in your life today. Don’t wait. Love yourself right now.